Coming into a relationship people have a long list of things they want from the relationship. They start off strong being considerate, showing respect, and communicating. However, somewhere along the way we get comfortable. We don't focus on the important things that are needed to maintain a relationship. Never allow yourself to get to comfortable in a relationship. No matter how long you have been together.
The quest to have a loving relationship should never stop just because your in that relationship, or in love. The more you invest into your relationship the more you will get out of it. I have heard many people say " I know him/her like a book." How is that when the words change as you turn the pages? You can never fully know a person.
Therefore, that is what makes relationships so special because it is a journey.As we put our mates, or ourselves into a box we ruin the relationship. This is usually when couples start to argue because someone has gotten comfortable. Someone has told themselves " I have seen enough I'm in love." You ever notice that in relationships you are always falling in love with your mate.
We often say I am in love, but the more you invest the more you fall. It doesn't stop , or it shouldn't stop. Don't limit your relationship to a few rewarding moments. Allow it to blossom! This is the point in a relationship when we all have to know how to follow, and not lead. You have to not be afraid to follow your heart at some point.
If you think having your guard up is not allowing someone else in it's not. Having a guard up wont allow you into your own heart. How does it feel to not have access to your own heart? This behavior leaves you more vulnerable than any other. Allow yourself to be open to express, and receive love. While we may be creatures of habits we tend to change those habits along the way.
If you find that your relationship has become rutine someone has gotten too comfortable. We lack excitment in our relationships because we take the excitment out of it. Ask yourself a year into your relationship " are you still excited when lisening to your mate?" Think of eever day as the first date and don't lose sight of that feeling.
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