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Is Love Outta Sight Outta Mind?

Is it true that love no longer exist, and relationships have no meaning? You mean to tell me that If I don't show a man how I want to be loved he will continue to think loving me is buy me the latest fads, or calling me bitches in videos, or keeping a woman on the side?

Why Is It Important For A Woman To Have Titles

A woman needs a title because it gives her status, and purpose in the relationship. These are the titles a woman looking for love should be looking for:

I Have A Good Man, But........

One of my loyal readers wants me to dish it out on the topic "I have a good man , but." The question is what do you do when your man has so many talents, but no job? The second part to the question is what do you do when he makes facebook a priority insteadd of jobsearch?

Is It To Late To Make Save Your Relationship

No one gets into a loving relationship with the intention to break up. When you really care about someone you should put your all into the relationship. It is never to late to fix the relationship. However, it requires both people to fix it. What I mean the two people have to really care for each other.

When you care for someone you are more willing to work things out with them. You tend to hear, and understand them differently than others. If you truly want to fix you relationship for the better you need to put your ego on the back burner. Never focus on waiting on your mate to change.

This seems to be the hardest part for most people because we tend to feel like we are spreading ourselves thin. Anything worth having we put ourselves on the line for, so your relationship should be no different. If you truly love the person and want it to work you have to put in work.

We learn how to love other people according to how they love themselves. Show your mate how to love you by loving yourself, and them the way you know how. Take some time to figurer out what you may need to work on and get to work. Don't even talk about how they have made you unhappy instead show them what happy is to you.

Good Luck!

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Is The Grass Greener On The Other Side

Have you ever met some one that was like a breath of fresh air? I mean they are every thing that is said that a man/woman can be? If you have I say hold on to this experience, and weigh it all out before you choose. It is not often that people find a mate that can complete them. Most people don't never get a mate that makes them happy. Therefore, if some one special comes into your life don't let it just slip away because you are content.

Be content in a relationship is like saying " I will settle." It is important to have your happiness in a relationship. Although, some people think they have found the one maybe their just preparing you for the real deal. All of the relationships from our past are no accident. The people we meet in our lives are there to bring a lesson.

What that lesson is you will have to find out, because only you will know. Finding a good relationship is hard for many people. Therefore, when they do finally find some one decent they think this has to be the one. Have you ever asked yourself "I'm I ready to except the one?" If we ask this question most of us would probably realize that we are not ready.

There is alway preparation before any action, love is no different. The people we meet along the way to finding love prepare us for the real deal. With that said some people come in our lives from just a season, or just a reason. The grass can be greener on the other side!

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Why Can A Man Love Two Woman?

Love is something that we all hold dear to our hearts and we don't like to share. A man can love two woman and treat them both good. Although, a relationship like this will never be completely balanced, meaning equal. A man if he really wants to can be very good to both woman and make them happy. The man is able to do this because they don't think like we do about love and emotion.

When a woman has sex or shares an intimate relationship with someone, she assumes he feels the same. Meaning he is sharing the exact same special feelings and emotions that she is in the moment. Although, a man feels that bond he has with you, they don't run on emotions so it's different. This exchange for a woman is much stronger because she looking at it emotionally. She feel like this feeling or connection can not be duplicated by anyone or that would violate the bond.

The fear of her man sharing the same closeness she has with him is too much to bare. If you look at it realistically you can never share the same relationship, only time,sex, and feelings. No two people are the same. Therefore, you can not share the same conversations, passion, energy, drive,or love. We are all love differently, and we all express love differently.

All of these reasons are why a man can truly love two woman. Those two woman both bring something different to the table. There are always down falls to these kind of situations such as jealousy, dishonesty, and him loving one more. Although, he can love more than one woman the love can never be equal. 

A woman's unrealistic view of the situation is that he can't love two people. She will ponder on how he can share the bond they have with someone else. However, he doesn't because that bond is and always will be unique. I don't know if woman will ever get to the point of excepting this. If we do we will have problems along the way.

How can I tell when the person is not feeling me?

This should be obvious to us but believe it or not sometimes we can't tell.  If the person is not into you there should be obvious sign. However, sometimes we don't want to see those signs so we don't. They may not call you back or you may have to call them all the time. This could be a sign that they don't want to be bothered.  If they are not showing interest in getting to know you deeper than just sex. This is a red flag. I would suggest that you ask a good friend to go on a double date with you. This way they can observe and give you an outside opinion. You should pick a friend that  has your best interest at heart. Some people will continue to be your friend because they don't know how to tell you they're not into you. It is important to give a person space so that they can feel comfortable enough to tell you.  

Is It Ok for a guy to wear skinny jeans ?

It all depends on what works for you. If your over a certain age I would say no but someone young may like it. I think skinny jeans are a little girlie for a guy. However, there are some guy's that can pull it off because they're just hot. Know body does it like Nick Jonas and his crew.

Is it Ok to call a guy after the first date?

If your going to call the guy you should call the next day. You need to give him some time to see whats up. You don't want to scare the guy away. I would even say if you can wait a few days to see if he calls first. You don't want to come as being to aggressive.

How can I tell when the person is not feeling me?

This should be obvious to us but believe it or not sometimes we can't tell.  If the person is not into you there should be obvious sign. However, sometimes we don't want to see those signs so we don't. They may not call you back or you may have to call them all the time. This could be a sign that they don't want to be bothered.  If they are not showing interest in getting to know you deeper than just sex. This is a red flag. I would suggest that you ask a good friend to go on a double date with you. This way they can observe and give you an outside opinion. You should pick a friend that  has your best interest at heart. Some people will continue to be your friend because they don't know how to tell you they're not into you. It is important to give a person space so that they can feel comfortable enough to tell you.